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Which is the Best Way to Explain Autism to a Child?
Receiving the diagnosis of a child with an autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and explaining autism to them is probably one of the most important conversations that you will have on your autism journey. Talking about it does not mean labeling them; it means bringing them into a conversation about who they are in a way that builds confidence, self-acceptance, and empowerment.
Many parents of children with autism fear they will say or do something to make their child feel uncharacteristically different. But this conversation is not about that; it is about helping them build tools to understand the world and life with pride and confidence.
Children on the spectrum are often aware that they do something differently than their peers. They may observe that social situations usually feel baffling and hurtful; they may become conscious of how sound makes them feel, how certain textures disorient them, or how they only really want a structure that works best for them as individuals.
This blog by ABA Centers of Washington examines the best ways to talk to your child while allowing them to understand and develop positive self-regard.
You May Feel or Think This
Explaining autism to a child may create a jumble of feelings. It is often difficult for parents to:
- Find the Right Words: Autism is a complex concept with which to come to grips. Being able to discuss autism and support your child without draining them with information is challenging.
- Concern Regarding Making Their Child Feel Different: Parents often want their children to fit in with other kids, yet talking about autism without care may create social barriers or anxieties.
- Not Know When to Say Anything: Is it better to talk about autism when they are younger or wait until they truly understand the concept?
- Not Know Where to Turn: Some families may not know where to turn for information about discussing autism.
7 Tips to Face Challenges When Explaining Autism
How to talk to kids about autism? Every child is different, so when explaining autism, tailor explanations to their age, developmental level, and personality. Consider these seven techniques when navigating this essential and sometimes challenging conversation:
1. Use positive, simplistic language: Describe to your child that their brain works uniquely and specially; what may be a challenge for them may be easier for some, and the reverse is true as well. For example: “Autism means your brain processes things differently, and that means you are really good at some things, and that is okay; some things may be harder for you to do.”
2. Emphasize that autism is just one part of who they are: Just like some people excel in sports or music or are kind and compassionate, autism is one of many traits that is just one part of who your child is as a whole person. Remind them that you love and value them just as they are. For example: “Autism is just one part of what makes you, just like how you’re also kind, funny, and great at building with LEGO. I love and appreciate you exactly as you are.”
3. Connect it to their own experience: Help your child to relate to the concept of autism by using their lived experience. If they have sensory sensitivities, social challenges, intense interests, or are gifted, then let them know that you see them and understand their experiences: “Loud noises feel overwhelming sometimes, right? That’s because your brain processes sound differently. It’s one of the things that makes you unique.”
4. Acknowledge the Need for an Ongoing Conversation: This should not be a one-time chat. Make sure your child knows they can always come to you with questions, ideas, or feelings about their diagnosis. A simple phrase could make the difference: “This isn’t a one-time conversation. You can ask me anything, anytime. I’m always here for you.”
5. Use Literature, Film, and Visuals: Many children benefit from visual explanations. Find books, animated films, and videos specifically designed to explain autism in a fun and relatable way. You can even create a personalized comic book or storyboard to explain autism in a way that your child can relate to.
6. Introduce Exemplary Autistic Role Models: Help your child realize that they are part of a positive, supportive, and diverse community. Provide stories of impactful and successful autistic individuals who value their neurodiversity and have made a positive impact in areas of their choosing.
7. Teach Self-Advocacy: As your child matures, help them develop self-advocacy skills that empower them to communicate their needs with confidence, ask for adaptations, and embrace their identity. Knowing about their autism will help them build confidence in navigating school, friendships, and life as a whole.
Establishing An Autism-Friendly Environment
In addition when explaining autism, it is similarly essential to create a space that fosters feeling supported. Below are a few ways to make an autism-friendly home:
- Establish Structure & Routine: Predictability can mitigate anxiety and provide a sense of stability.
- Provide Sensory-Friendly Areas: For children who demonstrate sensory sensitivities, consider adjusting their environment to reduce overwhelming stimuli (noise-canceling headphones, lowering the lights, or a quiet area).
- Encourage Open Communication: provide space for your child to communicate their feelings within a safe, non-judgmental environment. If verbal communication is difficult, there are other forms of communication (visual support, use of an AAC device, etc.).
- Celebrate Their Interests & Strengths: Many individuals with autism develop a deep interest in specific topics. Fostering these interests can boost confidence and develop essential skills.
How ABA Therapy Can Benefit Your Child
For many families, an autism diagnosis can lead to many conflicting emotions. Parents often have questions about the future and how best to support their child’s development. One of the most significant barriers to helping a child’s development is knowing how to talk to kids about autism and those surrounding them in a way that generates understanding.
ABA Centers of Washington has assisted numerous families in navigating their autism journey. Our team of specialists is here to help you understand your child’s needs and provide the skills necessary for success.
Our ABA therapy programs work to improve communication, social skills, academic skills, and independence based on the child’s strengths and abilities. Please call us at (877) 554-0710 or schedule a free consultation by clicking here. Together, we will establish a plan to support your child moving forward.
